You don’t need to hold your sex, dating, love, or relationship life hostage for a perfect someone. Newsflash! No one is perfect. The quest for the best one has left many suitable people blue-ticked.
How Prioridating Works? Everywhere you turn online, there are relationship goals and new dating standards. If you follow them, no one will ever be good enough for you. And if you’re a perfectionist, you’ll be too fantastic for everyone else. What is the middle ground? Prioridating!
The term was coined by dating coach Laurel House, a relationship expert at eHarmony, and it’s all about prioritizing yourself and your primary needs in order to find and build a healthy, lasting relationship. “Prioridating is dating on purpose, the purpose being to find someone who fulfills the one most important thing you need in a relationship,” House explains. “Historically, many people have dated based on a list of wants. Many of those wants are being superficial or not thoroughly thought through, as opposed to core values and relationship-sustaining needs that will impact your future.”
“What’s your number one most important priority when it comes to finding a partner? Determine that, and you WILL find and fulfill your need. Your one most important thing might be Safe- physical, emotional, financial safety. It might be feeling Cared For, or Romance, or a Partner, or Fun, or Friendship, or Adventure, or Family. Whatever your one priority is, you must align with it. Your conversations, associations, thoughts, actions, attitude must all align with the Priority of being, feeling, experiencing, living that Priority.”
“PrioriDating is about you- your life, your experience of life, based on your perspective, created by your past experiences, that shaped who you are and what you need moving forward. It’s time to own and show up as the Priority and with your Priority in mind and in action. Once you define and align with your priority, you have a better chance at discovering and fulfilling your needs — first (and most importantly) within yourself and then within a partner. Win-win-win.” — Laurel House.
Before you think everyone’s just going to be like “I want someone hot,” that’s actually proven to no longer be the case. According to Match’s 2021 Singles in America study, 22 percent of people don’t really care about “physical attractiveness” in a partner, which is a 12 percent increase from 2020. On the flip side, 84 percent of singles want someone they can confide in and 83 percent want to be with someone “emotionally mature.” If the years the study took place made you double-take, that’s because the pandemic had a clear impact on what people are now looking for when it comes to love. While that era seemed like an endless hell of Zoom dates and Skype calls, in reality, it prompted the majority of singles to re-evaluate their concept of relationships. With so much time spent chatting and connecting in isolation, people realized the value in qualities like humour, open-mindedness, and effective communication over more superficial traits like physical attractiveness and lifestyle, says Lozano. You know, things that really stand out during a global crisis!
Prioridating is not settling. You deny your deepest desires. You don’t have to be this person who resents others for getting what they deserve. Someone’s looks, height, or bank account won’t matter when you need emotional support. It’s true. I had a friend who said she could carry her baby’s looks. Why would she say this? We were being picky about how her man looked. But she knew he was a supportive guy. And would not question her decision because of something frivolous.
It is not settling. Why? You aren’t expecting the world of your partner. Because you have removed society’s checklist to use for comparisons. So, choosing them doesn’t feel like settling. And you can always self-confirm your choice when external people criticize your decision.
How can prioridating work for you? Pick someone who meets your current priority. But this person is also self-developing. By then, they should have grown to meet your new needs. For example, you require support. You picked a supportive partner, but they don’t have it together financially. It’s okay, for now, because they are building their startup or returning to school. Years later, you can evaluate your needs and your partner’s ability to meet them. On paper, that sounds terrible. But in a relationship, you will do this evaluation, anyway. That’s why people regret who they married or their age at first marriage or child. Prioridating allows for planning to reduce regrets.
Your partner complements you. They do not complete you. If you want to align with a partner, aim to be that person for yourself first. If you have trauma and this isn’t possible, give yourself the grace to grow emotionally.
Pornhub, OnlyFans and Major Cams Platforms Confront Italy’s New Age-Check Rules
Italy has formally named 45 porn and porn-adjacent websites that must introduce stricter age verification from November 12, 2025, as the country becomes the latest to tighten access to adult content.
The Italian communications regulator AGCOM has published a list of services it classifies as providing pornographic material in Italy. The roster includes Aylo-owned platforms Pornhub, Redtube, and YouPorn, along with xHamster, camming site Chaturbate, and subscription giant OnlyFans, among others.
Under the new framework, all sites on the list will be required to verify that users connecting from Italy are 18 or older through certified third-party providers. These verification partners may include dedicated age-check services, banks, or mobile operators that already hold verified customer data. Crucially, the process is expected to be repeated each time a user visits one of the listed platforms, rather than operating as a one-time verification per site, as is the case in some other markets, such as the UK.
Italy’s legal basis for porn age verification came into force in May, but platforms were granted a grace period until November 12. Only now has the full list of affected services been disclosed, and it features many of the industry’s largest brands. The move comes as critics of age verification argue that strict regimes tend to push traffic away from the biggest, more heavily scrutinized platforms and toward smaller sites that may be less compliant or less transparent.
In the UK, where tougher age checks for porn access were introduced in July, Pornhub has claimed that traffic from the country fell by 77 percent after the new rules took effect. According to parent company Aylo, users are not abandoning adult content altogether but are instead gravitating toward platforms that have not yet implemented – or are not yet being forced to implement – comparable verification systems.
Subsequent traffic data has indicated that, as visits to major porn brands decreased, some smaller adult sites experienced a corresponding rise in UK user numbers. At the same time, the UK regulator Ofcom has opened investigations into a range of pornography services, including lesser-known sites it alleges are not complying with the updated rules.
In Italy, platforms that appear on AGCOM’s list and fail to adopt compliant age verification procedures by November 12 risk facing penalties of up to 250,000 euros (around 290,000 US dollars). Observers expect that the regulator will add more services to the list over time as enforcement develops and new sites are identified.
Italy is also one of five EU member states that have piloted an age verification application developed by the European Commission. The tool is intended to provide a privacy-preserving way to prove that a user is over 18, with potential future use in porn age verification systems across the bloc.
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Go.cam Strengthens Defenses Against Video-Based Spoofing
Video spoofing is increasingly undermining digital age verification, with fraudsters using pre-recorded clips to bypass security checks. As regulators demand stronger compliance, providers are stepping up their defenses.
Go.cam introduced new measures designed to identify and block spoofed attempts more effectively. The platform leverages: • Fraud detection mechanisms that spot manipulated videos. • AI-powered liveness verification to counter evolving tactics. • Continuous updates that maintain compliance with global standards.
“By staying ahead of spoofing threats, we’re not just protecting platforms, we are safeguarding the confidence of every user who relies on us,” says Marco Forastieri, Marketing Director of Go.cam.
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