Masturbation is a normal thing and it is proven to be the most ‘direct’ way to explore your sexual needs and the areas that bring you erotic pleasures, which the human body and mind need.
In addition, it is the safest way to receive sexual pleasure without unwanted consequences of any kind, moreover, it is a really healthy thing. Exploring your body will help you ‘cultivate’ your sexuality and improve the quality of the sexual act, just as you will improve your knowledge of what you love and what you don’t love when it comes to sex.
Certainly, we also know the benefits of masturbation, both mentally and physically, such as relaxation and distressing.
Masturbation that has an orgasmic end will cause the brain to enter a chemical process of releasing endorphins – feel good chemicals.
When it comes to women, orgasms are exactly like an analgesic when having menstrual cramps.
In this article, we will talk about the most interesting positions for improving the ‘self-loving’ process and how we can intensify erotic pleasure.
Ladies first – enjoy!
Best Masturbation Positions For Women
Starlet Position is about standing on your knees on the bed, or on a surface that is comfortable and soft, and keeping your upper body upright. Open your knees in the position you feel most comfortable with. You can lean forward or back, as you feel your own body is dictating.
This position allows you to explore several points that will bring you satisfaction, you can use toys for penetration or external stimulation.
This is a very interesting position for those who are beginners in exploring their own body, just as it is not a complicated or intimidating position. Lie on your back, cross your legs, reach out and touch your body to find the points of pleasure. When you keep your legs crossed, the vibrator or hands will remain stable once you discover the feeling good areas. A trick for this position is to keep one arm above your head, this will help you arch your back to put your pelvis at a more favorable angle for reaching the orgasm.
A dildo is what you need for this position! Pop a dildo on a chair, or where you feel comfortable and go wild! It is a position that will offer you the freedom to rock your hips and feel the ‘penetration’ deep and intense. This position will help you get rid of some inhibitions if you have them.
Explode like never before
If you want an exploding orgasm, try this! Lie on your stomach on a pillow with your hand between your legs. Start by stimulating your clitoris and pubic mound by grinding your legs together and moving your hips up and down. You can try using egg toys to intensify the orgasm.
When it comes to masturbation, the most intuitive move for a woman is to rub the clitoris, but did you ever try to tap-tap it? You’ll feel a sensation like never before, lay on one side with one leg extended and the other bent. Tenderly separate and hold your labia to the sides, and apply a tiny drop of lube to your clitoris. Using your other hand, start tapping the clitoris by intensifying the speed and the pressure.
Best Masturbation Positions For Men
You’ve all heard about that ‘G-Spot’, and when it comes to men, this spot is called the prostate. This gland located inside your bottom is capable of producing very powerful climaxes and even multiple orgasms in men. Rub the area between your cock and your anus, also known as the ‘gooch’. You’ll find a spot that feels very relaxing when you rub it. By combining this ‘massage’ with usual masturbation techniques, it will bring you an orgasm to remember.
If you never tried anything but classical ‘hand position’ when it comes to stroking your penis, you can try doing this from a slightly different angle. Hold your penis ‘overhand’ with your wrist bent down grabbing your cock from above rather than below. And now, make the classical movements you usually feel are right for you. This would bring you a new level of satisfaction.
Hold the base
If you have some cumming difficulties, or if you want a long jacking-off session, you have to try this position for sure! You can start by grabbing your penis as you would normally do, and try to hold it by the base and stroke up and down in small strokes. By doing this, you will reduce the glans stimulation, which makes it easier to last longer.
Put some lube on the end of your finger and simply massage your frenulum in circular motions, you’ll feel goosebumps for sure! This technique is about gently rubbing your F-Spot (the V-shaped part of your penis).
This simple but gooooood feeling technique focuses on pleasuring the very tip of your penis.
By doing this, you’ll feel a gradual but very sensitive ejaculation. Start by grabbing the middle of your penis with one hand and place the palm of your other hand on the top of your penis head. Warning! Use a ton of lube, as it may cause pain if it is dry.
Have you ever ‘sexted’ someone?
Sexting, or the sending and receiving of sexually explicit photos, messages or videos on mobile devices, is a trend that doesn’t seem to be going away. Compared with Adam & Eve’s survey results from 10 years ago, adults seem to have embraced the virtual habit.
When asked if they engaged in sexting, 42% of the respondents admitted they had, compared to only 17% in 2011. While 46% of those polled said they did not sext, that is significantly lower than the 56% polled in 2011 who said they did not. Additionally, 12% of recent respondents preferred not to answer, versus only 2% in 2011.
“Sexting can be a fun, flirty way to let your significant other know you are thinking of them during the day or when you are separated by distance,” says Dr. Jenni Skyler, resident sexologist at Adam & Eve. “As a method of foreplay, sexting can set the mood and let your partner know exactly what’s on your mind. I encourage sexting participants to remember that naughty photos and fantasies don’t take the place of consent or communication.”
They also found that the prevalence of sexting increases with age among adolescents, but not among adults, and that people who are in a relationship are more likely to engage in sexting. These results suggest that, contrary to popular belief, young adults are more likely to engage in sexting than teenagers, and sexting may be a common behavior in established young adult relationships.
Sexting and other factors
The research found that:
· Females were more likely than males to feel pressured to send sexts;
· People who send and receive sexts are more likely to be sexually active; People who send and receive sexts are more likely to engage in sexual risk-taking behaviour (e.g., unprotected sex, alcohol and drugs); and
· People who had sent or received sexts regarded sexting more positively than those who hadn’t.
Some of the study’s reviewed looked at demographic factors such as race, sexual orientation, education or employment status but results were mixed and no clear associations between these factors and sexting were able to be determined.
The web-based survey, conducted by an independent third party survey company, of over 1,000 American adults age 18 and up, was sponsored by Adam & Eve to study sexual preferences and practices.
New Dating Trend Prioridating
You don’t need to hold your sex, dating, love, or relationship life hostage for a perfect someone. Newsflash! No one is perfect. The quest for the best one has left many suitable people blue-ticked.
How Prioridating Works?
Everywhere you turn online, there are relationship goals and new dating standards. If you follow them, no one will ever be good enough for you. And if you’re a perfectionist, you’ll be too fantastic for everyone else. What is the middle ground? Prioridating!
The term was coined by dating coach Laurel House, a relationship expert at eHarmony, and it’s all about prioritizing yourself and your primary needs in order to find and build a healthy, lasting relationship. “Prioridating is dating on purpose, the purpose being to find someone who fulfills the one most important thing you need in a relationship,” House explains. “Historically, many people have dated based on a list of wants. Many of those wants are being superficial or not thoroughly thought through, as opposed to core values and relationship-sustaining needs that will impact your future.”
“What’s your number one most important priority when it comes to finding a partner? Determine that, and you WILL find and fulfill your need. Your one most important thing might be Safe- physical, emotional, financial safety. It might be feeling Cared For, or Romance, or a Partner, or Fun, or Friendship, or Adventure, or Family. Whatever your one priority is, you must align with it. Your conversations, associations, thoughts, actions, attitude must all align with the Priority of being, feeling, experiencing, living that Priority.”
“PrioriDating is about you- your life, your experience of life, based on your perspective, created by your past experiences, that shaped who you are and what you need moving forward. It’s time to own and show up as the Priority and with your Priority in mind and in action. Once you define and align with your priority, you have a better chance at discovering and fulfilling your needs — first (and most importantly) within yourself and then within a partner. Win-win-win.” — Laurel House.
Before you think everyone’s just going to be like “I want someone hot,” that’s actually proven to no longer be the case. According to Match’s 2021 Singles in America study, 22 percent of people don’t really care about “physical attractiveness” in a partner, which is a 12 percent increase from 2020. On the flip side, 84 percent of singles want someone they can confide in and 83 percent want to be with someone “emotionally mature.”
If the years the study took place made you double-take, that’s because the pandemic had a clear impact on what people are now looking for when it comes to love. While that era seemed like an endless hell of Zoom dates and Skype calls, in reality, it prompted the majority of singles to re-evaluate their concept of relationships. With so much time spent chatting and connecting in isolation, people realized the value in qualities like humour, open-mindedness, and effective communication over more superficial traits like physical attractiveness and lifestyle, says Lozano. You know, things that really stand out during a global crisis!
Prioridating is not settling.
You deny your deepest desires. You don’t have to be this person who resents others for getting what they deserve. Someone’s looks, height, or bank account won’t matter when you need emotional support. It’s true.
I had a friend who said she could carry her baby’s looks. Why would she say this? We were being picky about how her man looked. But she knew he was a supportive guy. And would not question her decision because of something frivolous.
It is not settling. Why?
You aren’t expecting the world of your partner. Because you have removed society’s checklist to use for comparisons. So, choosing them doesn’t feel like settling. And you can always self-confirm your choice when external people criticize your decision.
How can prioridating work for you?
Pick someone who meets your current priority. But this person is also self-developing. By then, they should have grown to meet your new needs.
For example, you require support. You picked a supportive partner, but they don’t have it together financially. It’s okay, for now, because they are building their startup or returning to school. Years later, you can evaluate your needs and your partner’s ability to meet them.
On paper, that sounds terrible. But in a relationship, you will do this evaluation, anyway. That’s why people regret who they married or their age at first marriage or child. Prioridating allows for planning to reduce regrets.
Your partner complements you. They do not complete you.
If you want to align with a partner, aim to be that person for yourself first. If you have trauma and this isn’t possible, give yourself the grace to grow emotionally.
Will genetics progress make sex bygone?
According to Hank Greely, the director of Stanford Law School’s Center for Law and Biosciences, human reproduction may become automated faster than you realize.
Greely believes that within three decades, people will no longer have sex as a way to reproduce, and instead rely on genetically edited embryos grown from skin-derived stem cells, not the combination of an egg or sperm, The Independent reported.
According to Greely, this process ensures that the embryo is free from any devastating genetic diseases, and would also be cheaper in the long run because of the money it would save in healthcare over the years. What’s more, Greely predicts that couples would be able to choose other genetic traits in their children, such as physical features and intelligence.
“I don’t think we’re going to be able to say this embryo will get a 1550 on its two-part SAT,” Greely said this week at Aspen Ideas Festival, Quartz reported, “But, this embryo has a 60% chance of being in the top half, this embryo has a 13% chance of being in the top 10%—I think that’s really possible.”
This may sound far-fetched, but the gap between sex and procreation has been widening for the past 50 years thanks to the rise of fertility drugs, embroynic genetic testing, artificial insemination and in vitro fertilisation (IVF). Over the last ten years in the UK, egg freezing has increased tenfold, from just under 230 cycles in 2009 to almost 2,400 cycles in 2019. IVF birth rates in 2019 were three times higher than in 1991, and the use of egg and sperm donors has risen, too. “Now, maybe three or four per cent of the babies born in the developed world are conceived in some manner other than sexual intercourse, and I think in the future that percentage will go up,” Greely adds.
When scientists figure out how to make this work for humans, infertile and queer couples could have biological babies without needing to go through costly and risky procedures like IVF, donors or surrogates. Single people, meanwhile, could produce ‘uni babies’, using both eggs and sperm grown from their cells.
The idea may sound far-out, but according to Quartz, it already happens on a much smaller and limited scale as a way to prevent certain diseases. Although extremely expensive at the moment, advances in stem cell technology will help to drive down the cost. In addition, the amount that the government would save on not having to take care of sick babies would also make this more cost-efficient.
As many of you may worry, this is not the end of sex because recreational sex will always be with us, but it’s the end of sex as a way of procreating.
It will not be the complete end. People will still get pregnant the old-fashioned way, maybe for religious reasons, for philosophical reasons, for romantic reasons or maybe because they are teenagers and the back seat of the car is there.
“Eugenics is a slippery word; it means many things to different people. To some, it’s state-enforced reproductive control. To some, what we had was state-enforced sterilization. To some, it’s any kind of reproductive choice, but those are different things. For me, I think coercion is much more important than the issues of selection. The concern about the state or the insurance company or someone else, forcing you to pick particular babies, worries me a lot more than having parents make choices, though that raises its own set of questions.” Greely said.