Masturbation is a normal thing and it is proven to be the most ‘direct’ way to explore your sexual needs and the areas that bring you erotic pleasures, which the human body and mind need.
In addition, it is the safest way to receive sexual pleasure without unwanted consequences of any kind, moreover, it is a really healthy thing. Exploring your body will help you ‘cultivate’ your sexuality and improve the quality of the sexual act, just as you will improve your knowledge of what you love and what you don’t love when it comes to sex.
Certainly, we also know the benefits of masturbation, both mentally and physically, such as relaxation and distressing.
Masturbation that has an orgasmic end will cause the brain to enter a chemical process of releasing endorphins – feel good chemicals.
When it comes to women, orgasms are exactly like an analgesic when having menstrual cramps.
In this article, we will talk about the most interesting positions for improving the ‘self-loving’ process and how we can intensify erotic pleasure.
Ladies first – enjoy!
Best Masturbation Positions For Women
Starlet Position is about standing on your knees on the bed, or on a surface that is comfortable and soft, and keeping your upper body upright. Open your knees in the position you feel most comfortable with. You can lean forward or back, as you feel your own body is dictating.
This position allows you to explore several points that will bring you satisfaction, you can use toys for penetration or external stimulation.
This is a very interesting position for those who are beginners in exploring their own body, just as it is not a complicated or intimidating position. Lie on your back, cross your legs, reach out and touch your body to find the points of pleasure. When you keep your legs crossed, the vibrator or hands will remain stable once you discover the feeling good areas. A trick for this position is to keep one arm above your head, this will help you arch your back to put your pelvis at a more favorable angle for reaching the orgasm.
A dildo is what you need for this position! Pop a dildo on a chair, or where you feel comfortable and go wild! It is a position that will offer you the freedom to rock your hips and feel the ‘penetration’ deep and intense. This position will help you get rid of some inhibitions if you have them.
Explode like never before
If you want an exploding orgasm, try this! Lie on your stomach on a pillow with your hand between your legs. Start by stimulating your clitoris and pubic mound by grinding your legs together and moving your hips up and down. You can try using egg toys to intensify the orgasm.
When it comes to masturbation, the most intuitive move for a woman is to rub the clitoris, but did you ever try to tap-tap it? You’ll feel a sensation like never before, lay on one side with one leg extended and the other bent. Tenderly separate and hold your labia to the sides, and apply a tiny drop of lube to your clitoris. Using your other hand, start tapping the clitoris by intensifying the speed and the pressure.
Best Masturbation Positions For Men
You’ve all heard about that ‘G-Spot’, and when it comes to men, this spot is called the prostate. This gland located inside your bottom is capable of producing very powerful climaxes and even multiple orgasms in men. Rub the area between your cock and your anus, also known as the ‘gooch’. You’ll find a spot that feels very relaxing when you rub it. By combining this ‘massage’ with usual masturbation techniques, it will bring you an orgasm to remember.
If you never tried anything but classical ‘hand position’ when it comes to stroking your penis, you can try doing this from a slightly different angle. Hold your penis ‘overhand’ with your wrist bent down grabbing your cock from above rather than below. And now, make the classical movements you usually feel are right for you. This would bring you a new level of satisfaction.
Hold the base
If you have some cumming difficulties, or if you want a long jacking-off session, you have to try this position for sure! You can start by grabbing your penis as you would normally do, and try to hold it by the base and stroke up and down in small strokes. By doing this, you will reduce the glans stimulation, which makes it easier to last longer.
Put some lube on the end of your finger and simply massage your frenulum in circular motions, you’ll feel goosebumps for sure! This technique is about gently rubbing your F-Spot (the V-shaped part of your penis).
This simple but gooooood feeling technique focuses on pleasuring the very tip of your penis.
By doing this, you’ll feel a gradual but very sensitive ejaculation. Start by grabbing the middle of your penis with one hand and place the palm of your other hand on the top of your penis head. Warning! Use a ton of lube, as it may cause pain if it is dry.
Next toy generation: WOOD
It’s a thing!
Bioplastic toys are being reinvented, and everything is going green!
Until now, sex toys were largely made of plastic and silicone, some of them even having included in their components phthalates.
But not anymore! Sex toy companies are quickly readapting their product lines to respond to environmental issues, now offering their premium products in greener, recyclable, and sometimes even biodegradable materials.
In the lead-up to World Environment Day on June 5, why not choose a more natural accessory for helping you reach the height of pleasure?
Taking care of yourself care be seen in a positive way, but it can be seen even better if you do it in an environmentally friendly way.
Due to the pollution intensity, like other industries such as fashion and cosmetics, sex toy companies are rethinking their production models in order to reduce their impact on the environment.
Until now, erotic toys have been made on a large scale of plastic and silicone, and components have even included phthalates — those polluting materials and chemical compounds that can, on top of it all, be sources of allergies and other irritations. And that’s before we even talk about the batteries that need to be replaced regularly — or not — depending on the use of the toy.
Such observations have prompted many brands in this domain to reinvent themselves and unveil greener alternatives. Not content with offering safer devices since last fall thanks to the introduction of the first international standard dedicated to sex toys — ISO 3533 — manufacturers are also betting on materials that are much more respectful of the planet.
So what better way to respect our environment than to make wooden sex toys?
The idea may seem a bit scary, but in fact, wood is an ideal alternative to plastic when it comes to combining pleasure and sustainability.
And they have been made since 2010 by Thierry, a carpenter from Vosges, France, with wood from the famous forests of his region.
As weird as it may sound to you, this idea is a winner among the fans around the world. No chemical substances, no plastic, and definitely no battery: these sex toys allow users to reach pure bliss without harming the planet, and at a lower cost! Right now, you can find two different companies in France that make these green sex toys from local wood, and the prices are low at both of them.
There is another alternative to wood, since not everyone is comfortable using wooden erotic toys, and that is BIOPLASTIC, which the manufacturers find eco-friendly also.
And bioplastic, while some may not see it as such a green material, appears to be the most popular solution among industry players.
Womanizer is one of the brands in the news in recent months with the launch last year of its very first eco-friendly sex toy, Premium Eco. This pulsating air clitoral stimulator was designed from biodegradable Biolene, a material developed by the brand, composed of corn starch. And the intimate accessory can also be easily recycled since it can be completely dismantled.
Many other brands of adult accessories are now banking on bioplastics, such as Blush Novelties, which offers an eco-friendly version of its Gaia sex toy with Biofeel, a starch-based bioplastic that is both recyclable and biodegradable, or Natural Pleasure, which offers a vibrator made of recycled bio-sourced plastics, except for the motor, housed in a package made of recycled cardboard and paper.
Meanwhile, Ohhcean has worked on a whole range of sex toys made from plastic collected in the oceans. Help reach the ultimate pleasure while cleaning up the planet… Two birds with one stone, in short. In partnership with Tide Ocean (#tide), a company specialized in upcycling, the brand already offers three vibrating intimate accessories that provide pleasure without polluting Mother Nature.
Initiatives that prove that sexual bliss can be perfectly compatible with respect for the environment. A green revolution that probably most of the consumers are waiting for! Read more articles here
Do sexual Fantasies depend on gender?
Fantasies are sometimes (but not always!) a window into what people want to experience in their relationships or outside of them.
First of all, what are sexual fantasies?
A sexual fantasy or erotic fantasy is a mental image or a thought pattern that stirs a person’s sexuality and can create or enhance sexual arousal. The person’s imagination or memory can create a sexual fantasy. It may be triggered autonomously or by external stimulation such as erotic literature or pornography, a physical object, or sexual attraction to another person. Anything that may give rise to sexual arousal may also produce a sexual fantasy, and sexual arousal may, in turn, give rise to fantasies.
Spanish scientists have studied how some psychological variables such as erotophilia (positive attitude towards sexuality), sexual fantasies, and anxiety are related to sexual desire in human beings.
With a few valid and reliable instruments to evaluate sexual desire, the Spanish researchers have been forced to adapt by using the Sexual Desire Inventory by Spector, Carey, and Steinberg, which is a tool that enables the researcher to measure, on the one hand, the solitary sexual motivation and, on the other hand, the interest in having sexual intercourse with another person (didactic sexual desire).
This is a very important fact because “it gives relevant information about possible disagreements in sexual desire that may appear in a couple”.
So, do you think men fantasize about the same things as women?
Well, think twice!
The incidence of sexual fantasies is almost universal but varies by gender, age, sexual orientation, and society. In general, the most common fantasies for men and women are:
Reliving an exciting sexual experience.
Imagining sex with a current partner.
Imagining sex with a different partner.
And in the same time, the next most common fantasies involve oral sex, sex in a romantic location, sexual power or irresistibility, and rape.
Male fantasies tend to focus more on visual imagery and explicit anatomic detail. Men are more interested in visual sexual stimulation and fantasies about casual sex encounters, regardless of sexual orientation.
On the other hand, women’s fantasies tend to focus more on mental sexual stimulation and contain more emotion and connection. Thus, women are more likely to report romantic sexual fantasies high in intimacy and affection, for instance, associating their male partner with heroism and viewing them as chivalric rescuers. Evolutionary theory explains this finding, such that women may be likely to show commitment to their male partner in return for his investment of resources to help raise her offspring, thus increasing the offspring’s chance of survival.
Moving forward to the types of sexual fantasies, some of the frequently emerged patterns include men’s greater tendency to report sexual fantasies falling into the following categories: exploratory, intimate, impersonal, and sadomasochism.
Exploratory fantasies include those of homosexual encounters and group sex, while fantasies of watching others engage in sexual intercourse and fetishism are classed as impersonal sexual fantasies. Women are also likely to report fantasies involving a same-sex partner or those with a famous person. However, both sexes have been found to prefer intimate fantasies over the other three types outlined, including fantasies of oral sex and sex outdoors.
Sex differences have also been found regarding the Paraphilic sexual fantasies, which are those fantasies that are considered atypical, such as incest, sex with animals, and so on.
Even though the sexual fantasies defer by gender, there are still some common ones, more precisely 8:
Having a threesome,
Having sex with another woman (in women’s cases),
Enjoying a romp in public,
Talking about your sex life with your friends,
Having sex with total strangers,
Having sex with someone you know that’s not your spouse,
Mixing pain with pleasure/BDSM and making love in a romantic place.
Finally, when describing gender and gender roles, it is essential to consider that gender roles are schemas of the self. Sexual fantasies and gender roles are relatively separate concepts that have little influence on one another. Read more articles here
Is Sexual Wellness the next big thing in Self-Care?
Taking ownership of your sexuality doesn’t have to be a self-destructive experience but an empowering one.
We as women are often told to be more feminine, sexier, more agreeable, more of “this” or more of “that,” but never really asked what we wish for? We all agree that we need more of ourselves, more self-love, and more auto-discovery.
There is no shame in the self-love game! It is a gap about which nobody likes to talk. Also, speaking about sexuality is usually filtered down to a hush. However, it’s time to break down the barriers and get real. We need to shake off the stigma surrounding sexual wellness once and for all. Read full article here