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Are you a Fingerella?

What does better sex mean? Or… what does intense sexual pleasure mean?
Obviously, sexual pleasures and desires vary from person to person, however, nothing can go against everyone’s expectations, we all want “the boom”.
Today we will discuss fingering. This might resemble an interaction, that appears slightly “teenager” however, this is not necessarily true. When you comprehend the fingers’ utility when it comes to sex and once you know the right “buttons” to stimulate your or your partner’s body’s senses, fingering can bring long and “explosive” pleasures.

As many studies have shown, very few women reach orgasm during penetration, and here we are talking about a limit of 20%. The stimulation of the women’s genital organs is essential for “fingering”. This process should be explored by both women and men because practically, it is more important than it seems and the pleasure brought by a “qualitative” fingering, can be quite high, but we don’t mean here an “automated and mechanical” fingering.
We regularly say that we would like to receive more sex pleasure, intense orgasms, or/and a more “open-minded” relationship in bed, however, how often do we still feel embarrassed to say what we don’t/do really want? Shameful questions or deep desires should not stop you from exploring the “hot spots” that bring you levitation feelings. Enjoy being touched!
Of course, there are many individuals who do not like to be “fingered”, many people who don’t like oral sex, or some who don’t use a vibrator for stimulation. Everyone can be open or not to things like that. It’s perfectly normal. In any case, there are certain individuals who are strangers to what fingering can offer. Are you a fingerella? If so, this article is for you.
You can do fingering with your partner, or you can do it by yourself. You already know the beneficial part of masturbation, which includes knowledge about your body.
Before we go even further, we would like to share a reply made by Dr. Eskander, the gynecological consultant at Ganye Center:
“By keeping your fingernails short and clean, you can reduce the risk of infection. Be careful not to be too rough as this can lead to minute vaginal tears which, in addition to taking a few days to heal, increase the risk of catching an STI, particularly if there is an exchange of bodily fluids.”

The hand itself can be an exceptionally sexual tool if you know how to “use” it. Our fingertips are designed to be soft, smooth, and very receptive, and this way, you can feel in a “responsive” way the signals of the vagina, either it’s about pleasure or discomfort.

Here, let’s divide the subject into pieces. We can start with the “delightful” places of the vulva.
The clitoris is the focal point of sexual pleasure. It has about 8000 nerve endings, and even if it seems to be only on the “outer” side, it deepens into the pelvic area and around the vagina. The first thing is to know the anatomy of the genital organ, otherwise, misunderstanding the “functionality” of the vagina can cause the sensation of pain by touching some sensitive areas while fingering.
Lubricant is a real help if you choose to have a “slippery” fingering. The smoother and slipperier the “subject” is, the longer the pleasure will last. The touch is going to be more intense and satisfying. Even if the body produces natural lubricant, it tends to be straightforwardly impacted by hormones, stress, dehydration, and many other aspects.
The process takes time to feel really pleasant, and begins with 15-20 minutes of “warming up”. As we know, women have a different “warming up” process than men. An orgasm needs a beginning, a middle, and an end to be a complete one.

Note for men:
Usually, men go directly to the center of pleasure – the “clitoris”, which is actually the “finish line”.
It is very important for the stimulation to be gradual, and by increasing the speed, the blood flows through the genitals, and this is bringing the woman close to orgasm.
Persistent and rhythmic movements are the key to stimulate the female genital organ. The body’s
“hot” response does not necessarily mean that a change of movement is needed, it is just a kind of “approval” that what is happening is pleasant and it must be continued.
The finger process does not require penetration to be completed. Inclinations change from one individual to another, so asking your partner’s “consent” to “go inside” would be helpful.
Touching the abdomen, legs, and areas that give “goosebumps”, intensifies sexual “emotions”.
At the point the orgasm is close, the rhythm and intensity of breathing change, and the body tension increases. In order not to lose “concentration”, it is important to keep the focus. Every human has a different “happy ending” process. When close to the orgasm, some people love the clitoris to be massaged hard and intensely, someone else loves to keep the soft touch.
The different human construction demonstrates that the “buttons” that produce “erotic pleasure” usually vary. However, most women love “a gentle touch” and a delicate one. Along these lines, learning something about your own body or your partner’s body can prolong your pleasure and fulfillment.

Great sex needs a little variety, however, a good fingering is a rare thing, and on the off chance that you have a partner, don’t spare a moment to talk and to “indicate” where and how you like to be touched.
Many women notice that men are “somehow rough” with the clitoris, and this occasionally creates discomfort and pain, so communication is significant. In the event that you feel alright, you can show him your technique. Your partner can’t mysteriously discover what you like and don’t like, and what’s ideal for your body. Let your partner look when you touch yourself. Furthermore, using sounds as approval of pleasure can help in the fingering process. Communication can bring more satisfying results than a standard “guide” for an appropriate fingering.

The orgasm delivered by fingering is very intense, and this, at times, can take longer than using a sex toy as a “stimulator”, yet the pleasure is worth the time and involvement. Try not to muddle about fingering, yet feel the body’s responses.
The best fingering is the one where the body and the mind are involved, helping each other to get excited about an explosive “grand finale”. Read more articles here

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Is Sexual Wellness the next big thing in Self-Care?

Taking ownership of your sexuality doesn’t have to be a self-destructive experience but an empowering one.
We as women are often told to be more feminine, sexier, more agreeable, more of “this” or more of “that,” but never really asked what we wish for? We all agree that we need more of ourselves, more self-love, and more auto-discovery.

There is no shame in the self-love game! It is a gap about which nobody likes to talk. Also, speaking about sexuality is usually filtered down to a hush. However, it’s time to break down the barriers and get real. We need to shake off the stigma surrounding sexual wellness once and for all. Read full article here

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Lube trends 2022

So, first of all, what are lubes?
Personal lubricants also referred to as sexual lube or lubes, come in a gel or liquid. They can be applied to the penis, vagina, anus, or sex toys. Lubes can enhance sexual pleasure by helping penetration, relieving pain, and reducing friction during sexual intercourse and masturbation.

Sexual lubrication is in no way a modern invention. There is evidence that lube was used as far back as 600 BC. Carrageenan, a sticky liquid extracted from red seaweed, was used by those in Japan, Korea, and China. This liquid t is water-soluble, viscous, and slippery, making it an efficient lubricant, and it is still used in some lubricants today.
More recently, researchers have also discovered that carrageenan-based gels might help prevent the transmission of versions of HPV, which can cause cervical cancer. Read full article here

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I paused sex, what happens next?

Believe it or not, until the middle of the 20th century, the sexual desire of a woman was considered a type of mental illness. Fortunately, sex nowadays has become a normal thing! However, nowadays, another “fashion wave” has come, and to be specific, this wave is about entering into your spiritual world, by rejecting “carnal pleasures” in exchange for inner growth.
There are numerous adults that refuse sex, hoping to find some useful inner qualities in this abstinence. Psychologists and sexologists come up with some pros and cons, however, you are the one to decide what type of journey you choose.


  • “Abstinance” affects the general condition of the body, making it more vulnerable to viruses.
  • The immunity of women who voluntarily or involuntarily deprived themselves of sexual intercourse is 33% lower than that of those who regularly relieve sexual tension.
  • Having sex promotes the production of collagen, which makes the skin elastic and saves from wrinkles
  • Orgasms are the best cure for depression
  • Prevention of hormonal disruptions.
  • Acne can persist, as sex is the best remedy for healthy skin.
  • Menstrual cycles may change
  • Increased irritability

Sex is a great way to relieve stress. The lack of sex in a woman’s life reduces the number of endorphins and seriously worsens mood. At least in the early stages of abstinence will be very difficult.


  • Abstinence usually helps to save the energy needed to fulfill an individual’s potential. This saved energy can be useful in creating educational activities, work projects. There is a “legend” that artists and athletes abstain from sexual relationships before an important event that requires serious implication.
  • Body rejuvenation. Representatives of spiritual practices are sure that moderate abstinence helps in recovering the body.
    -Sex, in addition to pleasure, also brings the risk of getting diseases. Even protected sex does not guarantee 100% protection. The list is wide,-of course, not having sex reduces the risk of picking up such surprises to zero.
  • The chances of finding the “right” partner have increased.
  • Have fun with romantic partners without sexual involvement, so the relationship can reach a new level.
  • The abstinence supports personal, moral, or religious beliefs and values.

Slow But Sure
Representatives from Cornell University (USA) came up with a theory about abstinence in couples at an early stage of a relationship. Couples who met and interrupted their sex life before moving on to the next level, in most cases, proved to have a healthier and happier relationship than those who missed the period of “getting to know the person ”. One of the studies was based on interviewing 600 married couples and people living in a civil marriage. People were asked about their level of understanding and communication in their relationship, also, how often contradictions occur, and, of course, what is their level of sexual communication. The study also involved other sides of the relationship, such as financial issues, interest in the partner’s activities, and many other issues that provided clarity to this experiment.
The specialists concluded that early sex partially disrupts the process of exploring a partner’s inner world, all these things leading to a lot of “slipping”, instead of consciously deciding how much they need to have sex.
Intense sexual desire can interfere with the development of other aspects of a healthy relationship, such as commitment, rapport, and shared values.

In reality, things are much simpler. Satisfaction in bed is always pleasant if you are lucky to have the right partner. However, if your body and soul feel the need to experiment with a period of abstinence, then, just listen to your inner calling and see what happens next. It is important to take this decision based on your REAL needs, otherwise, it can lead to unpleasant consequences. Read more articles here

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