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Gender Specifics

There was a time when the question was a simple ‘Male or Female’? Nowadays, the question has expanded to a whole paragraph, with many people not even understanding some descriptions on the page in front of them.
It comes back to that whole labelling obsession we now have. Society demands we label ourselves and each other and at times it’s difficult to recall which labels we have attached!
If (as a female who may occasionally partake in some female company) I must categorize my gender as no longer simply being ‘Female’, which option should I go for?
I could go the whole way and decide that I am ‘Gender Neutral’. Gender Neutral is a term invented by people who prefer that language, policies and social institutions avoid distinguishing roles according to someone’s sex or gender.
Almost 40% of the world’s population speaks a gender native language. This of course proves problematic for those against any kind of gender based societal practices.

Gender Types
In general terms, there are only 4 genders that apply to living and non-living objects, which are masculine, feminine, neuter and common.
Other more recent listings will have you believe that there are more than 50 different genders, including Androgynous, Bigender, Cis Female, Genderqueer, Non-binary, Pangender, Transexual and many more.
Why the need to produce type after type of different styles and types of being. I am (after all) a product of my parents, born a female and still acting to all intent and purposes, as a female. However, does my sexual activity mean I should be relabelled as bisexual?
The big question is whether it is the individual themselves who wish to be labelled or indeed invent the label, or is it others unable to accept someone outside of the norm, who are making up these labels on (what seems to be) a daily basis?

The Language of Gender
If you play sport, you may refer to yourself as a ‘Sportsman’ or ‘Sportswoman’. That definition allows other people to identify the individual as female or male. It doesn’t necessarily provide any political or social reasoning behind the person participating. If we all start using the term ‘Sportsperson’, doubts and questions are immediately at the forefront of our mind.
If it’s a footballer, those opposed to females playing footie will be desperately trying to ascertain if their interest is piqued or not. I personally dislike watching female footballers and cannot watch female boxers but to be honest, with boxing, which includes males also. I hate fighting – period! For similar reasons I dislike Rugby and Wrestling. Some men feel the same way. It’s nothing to do whether it is a female or male dominated sport. It’s the activity and general feeling behind the sport in question.
There is no denying that when someone excels in an activity normally undertaken by the opposite sex, people generally sit up and take note. Whether it is due to their physique being matched to the pursuit, or achieved through years of training, they are noted and celebrated as going against the norm.

Gender Neutrality and the Human Race
The incidence of individuals being born which are neither masculine or feminine is incredibly small and yet society has introduced any number of descriptions relating to someone who does not fit the typical mould.
The big question is, who requested those labels? Was it the individuals themselves, or those seeking to extract them from a generalised description?
Surely a world where we are all classed as individuals is paramount to allowing everyone to exist in a world of equality. We are (in the main) either male or female because of the chromosome that the male parent contributes. We are born and then grow with a straightforward set of biological structures, depending upon whether we are born male or female. Our parents tend to concentrate on supplying the care required, depending upon our sex.

Acceptance
Some people do not feel comfortable with their allotted gender and struggle from an early age to fit into a mould which doesn’t suit them. Instead of seeing these people as having problems, why do we not see them as simply not conforming to a nominal standard? Why can we not allow them to flourish as an individual human being?
We do not need to label or put them inside a box which conforms to a set standard. Looking beyond what society demands is surely the way forward. Allowing everyone the freedom to be whomever they want to be, at any time they want to be, is surely a better way forward.

Removing the stigma of labelling and anything which does not conform means we progress towards a greater understanding of others. Acceptance is the key to opening up a much bigger and brighter world for all.

Love Carla Sez x

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The Benefits of Oral Sex

Oral sex is not only pleasant but also extremely beneficial for women’s health. The sperm contains many trace elements, such as zinc and calcium, which have the ability to restore enamel and strengthen the gums. If you have oral sex 2 times a week, the risk of caries is reduced by 40%.

Male sperm contains active substances such as prostaglandins, so when they enter a woman’s body, they increase the production of the female hormone estrogen, thereby improving the condition of the skin and hair, increasing the volume of the breasts and hips. But remember, such effects occur only if the sperm is swallowed. Oral sex is a great calorie-burning trainer, with 26 minutes blow job you burn calories from one pizza. During fellatio, the nerve endings on the lips are irritated and oxytocin is produced, which causes the woman to relax.

The lipids contained in semen have an excellent healing effect and are essential for gastritis, ulcers, or colitis. Also, a blow job is necessary for a future pregnancy. With sperm, you get your partner’s DNA, and when you become pregnant, this will help the fetus to harden in the uterus. Before conception, doctors recommend three weeks of oral sex practice.

Another type of antidepressant, the thyroid-stimulating hormone – melatonin, was found in sperm, restoring the normal biological rhythm of people and strengthening sleep. Serotonin, one of the main neurotransmitters, was also found in the sperm’s proprieties.

Rejuvenation
When sperm gets on the face, it can have a rejuvenating effect due to the right concentration of citric acid in it and the presence of nutritious protein interspersed with hormones.

Tightened facial muscles
The movement of the tongue and lips during oral sex makes all the muscles of the face and neck work. It also has a positive effect, because it prevents sagging of the skin and the appearance of a double chin. With regular training, of course.

Oral sex is the best cure for angine
Protein relieves inflammation because it destroys the membrane of microorganisms, which become unviable and die. Today, the question is acute – why drink raw eggs if there is a unique source of protein nearby, in the form of the sperm of a beloved man. Of course, semen must be swallowed to prevent inflammation. Read more articles here

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G-Spot

The G-spot was discovered in the late 1940s by the German gynecologist Ernst von Grafenberg.
g. In 1950, in his article “The Role of the Urethra in the Female Orgasm,” Grafenberg wrote in detail about the new erogenous zone inside the vagina. Since then, people have hunted the G-spot in bedrooms, and there the studies in the labs started.

A lot of studies decline the existence of the G-spot and declare it a myth, and the main argument of such studies is the lack of “that special orgasm” and pleasure from vaginal stimulation.
However, at the same time, the reports do not publish data on what these women did to detect the G-spot and reach the orgasm.
The secret of the G-spot lies in the fact that the sensitive nerve endings of this zone are not located on the surface of the vaginal wall, but in-depth, behind the wall, therefore, a stronger directional effect is needed to stimulate the G-spot.
The clitoris and the G-spot are the most sensitive female erogenous zones that form the so-called “clitoral-vaginal complex”. Everyone knows where and how the clitoris is located and that its stimulation easily induces a clitoral orgasm. It is believed that this area is somehow connected to the roots of the clitoris. At the same time, women exhibit symptoms similar to male erection and ejaculation. This is accompanied by a sharp release from the urethra of a certain amount (sometimes up to 100-150 ml.) of a clear liquid, colorless. Later this phenomenon was called “squirting” or “female ejaculation”. The diameter of the G-spot area varies from 0.75 to 3 cm. It has a granular structure that can be felt when touched.

Why is it called “G-Spot”?
This is primarily due to the name of its discoverer, German gynecologist Ernest Grafenberg, who in the 1950s first announced to the world the existence of a special erogenous zone in the female vagina, as well as the fluid released during its stimulation. Initially, it was called the Grafenberg spot, but after a while (after the death of the scientist) they came to a more simplified, shortened, and easy-to-remember version – the G-Spot.

How to find the G-Spot?
If a woman examines her body, then it is quite possible to find such an area on her own. Usually, a girl can feel the area deep in her vagina, which is especially sensitive. It is a small tubercle that differs from the rest of the surface, which is located on the anterior wall of the vagina at a depth of about 5-6 centimeters (2.5-2 phalanges of the female finger).

Do the virgins have G-spot or not?
A very sensitive question, the answer, of course, will be yes. The problem is in the physical ability to get to her. The following factors can prevent from feeling the G-spot:
-banal ignorance of elementary female anatomy;
-inability to find where it is hidden;
-the small diameter of the opening in the hymen, which does not allow the finger to pass through;
-tightness of the edges of the hymenal foramen, preventing the insertion and movement of the finger;
-unpreparedness for this sexual experiment;
-other (unaccounted for and unexplained) reasons.


The exploration of the G-zone allows a woman to experience a vaginal orgasm. However, for many, this area is in a “sleep” state. Since adolescence, only the clitoris is mainly stimulated due to the presence of an intact hymen in a girl at this age, so this is why girls are rarely involved in the process of studying the zone. Therefore, sexual arousal and orgasmic persist, as they remain “focused” on the clitoris, and the G area may remain in an inactive state.
It is important to remember that every woman is different from others and from herself at a different age. For example, breast sensitivity is different for different women, and sometimes also changes depending on the period of the menstrual cycle. The same happens with the G-spot and its sensitivity.
In other words, does it really matter if there is actually a specific point, zone, or organ? If a girl enjoys stimulating this area, she should not be disturbed. If there are no pleasant sensations, then there is nothing to worry about here either: this zone is insensitive in a huge number of women. But trying to find it is still worth it: what if it works? Read more articles here

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Best WoManSturbation Positions

Masturbation is a normal thing and it is proven to be the most ‘direct’ way to explore your sexual needs and the areas that bring you erotic pleasures, which the human body and mind need.
In addition, it is the safest way to receive sexual pleasure without unwanted consequences of any kind, moreover, it is a really healthy thing. Exploring your body will help you ‘cultivate’ your sexuality and improve the quality of the sexual act, just as you will improve your knowledge of what you love and what you don’t love when it comes to sex.
Certainly, we also know the benefits of masturbation, both mentally and physically, such as relaxation and distressing.
Masturbation that has an orgasmic end will cause the brain to enter a chemical process of releasing endorphins – feel good chemicals.
When it comes to women, orgasms are exactly like an analgesic when having menstrual cramps.

In this article, we will talk about the most interesting positions for improving the ‘self-loving’ process and how we can intensify erotic pleasure.

Ladies first – enjoy!

Best Masturbation Positions For Women

Starlet Position is about standing on your knees on the bed, or on a surface that is comfortable and soft, and keeping your upper body upright. Open your knees in the position you feel most comfortable with. You can lean forward or back, as you feel your own body is dictating.

This position allows you to explore several points that will bring you satisfaction, you can use toys for penetration or external stimulation.

Helping Hand
This is a very interesting position for those who are beginners in exploring their own body, just as it is not a complicated or intimidating position. Lie on your back, cross your legs, reach out and touch your body to find the points of pleasure. When you keep your legs crossed, the vibrator or hands will remain stable once you discover the feeling good areas. A trick for this position is to keep one arm above your head, this will help you arch your back to put your pelvis at a more favorable angle for reaching the orgasm.


Invisible lover
A dildo is what you need for this position! Pop a dildo on a chair, or where you feel comfortable and go wild! It is a position that will offer you the freedom to rock your hips and feel the ‘penetration’ deep and intense. This position will help you get rid of some inhibitions if you have them.

Explode like never before
If you want an exploding orgasm, try this! Lie on your stomach on a pillow with your hand between your legs. Start by stimulating your clitoris and pubic mound by grinding your legs together and moving your hips up and down. You can try using egg toys to intensify the orgasm.

Tap-Tap it!
When it comes to masturbation, the most intuitive move for a woman is to rub the clitoris, but did you ever try to tap-tap it? You’ll feel a sensation like never before, lay on one side with one leg extended and the other bent. Tenderly separate and hold your labia to the sides, and apply a tiny drop of lube to your clitoris. Using your other hand, start tapping the clitoris by intensifying the speed and the pressure.

Best Masturbation Positions For Men
G-Spot

You’ve all heard about that ‘G-Spot’, and when it comes to men, this spot is called the prostate. This gland located inside your bottom is capable of producing very powerful climaxes and even multiple orgasms in men. Rub the area between your cock and your anus, also known as the ‘gooch’. You’ll find a spot that feels very relaxing when you rub it. By combining this ‘massage’ with usual masturbation techniques, it will bring you an orgasm to remember.


Overhand
If you never tried anything but classical ‘hand position’ when it comes to stroking your penis, you can try doing this from a slightly different angle. Hold your penis ‘overhand’ with your wrist bent down grabbing your cock from above rather than below. And now, make the classical movements you usually feel are right for you. This would bring you a new level of satisfaction.

Hold the base
If you have some cumming difficulties, or if you want a long jacking-off session, you have to try this position for sure! You can start by grabbing your penis as you would normally do, and try to hold it by the base and stroke up and down in small strokes. By doing this, you will reduce the glans stimulation, which makes it easier to last longer.

F-Spot
Put some lube on the end of your finger and simply massage your frenulum in circular motions, you’ll feel goosebumps for sure! This technique is about gently rubbing your F-Spot (the V-shaped part of your penis).

Polish it!
This simple but gooooood feeling technique focuses on pleasuring the very tip of your penis.
By doing this, you’ll feel a gradual but very sensitive ejaculation. Start by grabbing the middle of your penis with one hand and place the palm of your other hand on the top of your penis head. Warning! Use a ton of lube, as it may cause pain if it is dry.

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