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Gender Specifics

There was a time when the question was a simple ‘Male or Female’? Nowadays, the question has expanded to a whole paragraph, with many people not even understanding some descriptions on the page in front of them.
It comes back to that whole labelling obsession we now have. Society demands we label ourselves and each other and at times it’s difficult to recall which labels we have attached!
If (as a female who may occasionally partake in some female company) I must categorize my gender as no longer simply being ‘Female’, which option should I go for?
I could go the whole way and decide that I am ‘Gender Neutral’. Gender Neutral is a term invented by people who prefer that language, policies and social institutions avoid distinguishing roles according to someone’s sex or gender.
Almost 40% of the world’s population speaks a gender native language. This of course proves problematic for those against any kind of gender based societal practices.

Gender Types
In general terms, there are only 4 genders that apply to living and non-living objects, which are masculine, feminine, neuter and common.
Other more recent listings will have you believe that there are more than 50 different genders, including Androgynous, Bigender, Cis Female, Genderqueer, Non-binary, Pangender, Transexual and many more.
Why the need to produce type after type of different styles and types of being. I am (after all) a product of my parents, born a female and still acting to all intent and purposes, as a female. However, does my sexual activity mean I should be relabelled as bisexual?
The big question is whether it is the individual themselves who wish to be labelled or indeed invent the label, or is it others unable to accept someone outside of the norm, who are making up these labels on (what seems to be) a daily basis?

The Language of Gender
If you play sport, you may refer to yourself as a ‘Sportsman’ or ‘Sportswoman’. That definition allows other people to identify the individual as female or male. It doesn’t necessarily provide any political or social reasoning behind the person participating. If we all start using the term ‘Sportsperson’, doubts and questions are immediately at the forefront of our mind.
If it’s a footballer, those opposed to females playing footie will be desperately trying to ascertain if their interest is piqued or not. I personally dislike watching female footballers and cannot watch female boxers but to be honest, with boxing, which includes males also. I hate fighting – period! For similar reasons I dislike Rugby and Wrestling. Some men feel the same way. It’s nothing to do whether it is a female or male dominated sport. It’s the activity and general feeling behind the sport in question.
There is no denying that when someone excels in an activity normally undertaken by the opposite sex, people generally sit up and take note. Whether it is due to their physique being matched to the pursuit, or achieved through years of training, they are noted and celebrated as going against the norm.

Gender Neutrality and the Human Race
The incidence of individuals being born which are neither masculine or feminine is incredibly small and yet society has introduced any number of descriptions relating to someone who does not fit the typical mould.
The big question is, who requested those labels? Was it the individuals themselves, or those seeking to extract them from a generalised description?
Surely a world where we are all classed as individuals is paramount to allowing everyone to exist in a world of equality. We are (in the main) either male or female because of the chromosome that the male parent contributes. We are born and then grow with a straightforward set of biological structures, depending upon whether we are born male or female. Our parents tend to concentrate on supplying the care required, depending upon our sex.

Acceptance
Some people do not feel comfortable with their allotted gender and struggle from an early age to fit into a mould which doesn’t suit them. Instead of seeing these people as having problems, why do we not see them as simply not conforming to a nominal standard? Why can we not allow them to flourish as an individual human being?
We do not need to label or put them inside a box which conforms to a set standard. Looking beyond what society demands is surely the way forward. Allowing everyone the freedom to be whomever they want to be, at any time they want to be, is surely a better way forward.

Removing the stigma of labelling and anything which does not conform means we progress towards a greater understanding of others. Acceptance is the key to opening up a much bigger and brighter world for all.

Love Carla Sez x

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U.S. Supreme Court Upholds Mail Delivery of Abortion Pills in 7-2 Vote

The U.S. Supreme Court has rejected an anti-abortion challenge targeting federal rules that allow abortion pills to be prescribed online and delivered through the mail.

In a 7-2 decision, the court granted an emergency appeal from the makers of Mifepristone and blocked a ruling from the 5th Circuit Court of Appeals in Louisiana that would have banned the mailing of the medication. Justices Clarence Thomas and Samuel A. Alito Jr. dissented.

Justice Alito criticized the decision, arguing it undermined the court’s ruling in Dobbs v. Jackson Women’s Health Organization, which returned abortion regulation authority to individual states.

The ruling represents a setback for abortion opponents who argue that abortion medication is unsafe. The case will now return to the 5th Circuit for further review.

Mifepristone was approved by the U.S. Food and Drug Administration in 2000 as a safe and effective medication for ending early pregnancies and treating miscarriages. It is commonly used together with misoprostol, a second drug that causes cramping.

Since 2016, the FDA has gradually eased restrictions on the medication. During the COVID-19 pandemic in 2021, the agency temporarily suspended the requirement for patients to obtain the pills directly from a clinic or doctor, before permanently removing the rule in 2023.

Medication abortions now account for nearly two-thirds of abortions in the United States, while telehealth services are used in approximately 27% of abortion cases nationwide.

The lawsuit was brought by Liz Murrill, who argued that allowing abortion pills to be mailed weakened Louisiana’s strict abortion ban. A federal judge initially delayed a final decision while the FDA conducted a separate review of the drug’s safety.

However, the 5th Circuit Court of Appeals later ruled that the FDA had improperly relaxed its regulations, immediately reinstating restrictions on mailing the medication beginning May 1.

Abortion law experts described the appeals court decision as highly unusual, noting that courts rarely force the FDA to restore safety restrictions that the agency previously reviewed and deemed unnecessary.

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Chaturbate: Health + Wellness Event Returns Sept 17

Chaturbate announces its fifth annual Health + Wellness Event for September 17, 2025, themed “New Age of Self-Care.” The site frames self-care as a strategy for creators—covering unplugging without losing income, eating better without guilt, and setting boundaries that stick—through candid talks with creators and experts. Attendees can ask questions live in the chat during each session.

Schedule (PDT)
10:00–10:45 AM — Rest is Radical: Sleep, Balance & the Burnout Epidemic
Creators share strategies for downtime and prioritizing rest without sacrificing growth.
Speakers: Raquel Savage (Therapist), VioletttFlowers (Chaturbate Creator), BlondeFoxSilverFox (Chaturbate Creator).

11:00–11:45 AM — Glow Up From the Inside Out: Nutrition, Movement & Sex-Positive Wellness
How fueling your body and staying active can enhance confidence, libido, and overall well-being on—and off—camera.
Speakers: Chris Boss (Registered Dietitian), SaraLoveRays (Chaturbate Creator), LailaGetsNaked (Chaturbate Creator), DCHCCO (Chaturbate Creator).

12:00–12:45 PM — Wellness on a Budget: Affordable Self-Care for Creators
Small, sustainable habits and routines that don’t break the bank.
Speakers: Dr. Shawn (Board-Certified Anesthesiologist), AdalineStar, AlphaZack14, TiffaniLove (Chaturbate Creators).

1:00–1:45 PM — Mind Over Media: Mental Health in the Age of Always Being “On”
A candid discussion on anxiety, burnout, boundaries, therapy, and the pressures of always being online.
Speakers: Romi Rain (Adult Industry Icon), Heatherbby (Chaturbate Creator).

Chaturbate invites creators to join the live sessions and engage with the panelists throughout the day. More details: chaturbate.com/healthandwellness.

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Italy: Senate Passes Law Introducing Life Imprisonment for Femicide

In a historic move aimed at combating gender-based violence, the Italian Senate has unanimously passed a bill that formally enshrines femicide as a distinct criminal offense in the country’s Penal Code. With 161 votes in favor and none against, the legislation mandates life imprisonment for anyone found guilty of killing a woman out of gender-based hatred or with the intent to suppress her rights and freedoms.

According to Italy’s national press agency ANSA, cited by Agerpres, the law defines femicide as the act of murdering a woman “out of discrimination or hatred rooted in her gender, or with the goal of repressing her rights, freedoms, or identity.”

Beyond setting the maximum penalty, the bill also imposes tougher restrictions on access to prison benefits for femicide convicts and mandates new national programs focused on education and awareness to help prevent gender-based violence before it escalates.

The bill now moves to the Chamber of Deputies for final approval. Its introduction comes amid growing public outrage over the rise in femicide cases across Italy. In 2024 alone, official data from the Interior Ministry recorded 113 femicides, of which 99 occurred in family or intimate contexts. Tragically, 61 women were killed by current or former partners.

If adopted, Italy will join a small but growing number of countries that have codified femicide as a standalone crime—marking a pivotal moment in the nation’s efforts to protect women and address systemic violence rooted in misogyny.