Selfcare & Sexual Wellness

Gender Specifics

There was a time when the question was a simple ‘Male or Female’? Nowadays, the question has expanded to a whole paragraph, with many people not even understanding some descriptions on the page in front of them.
It comes back to that whole labelling obsession we now have. Society demands we label ourselves and each other and at times it’s difficult to recall which labels we have attached!
If (as a female who may occasionally partake in some female company) I must categorize my gender as no longer simply being ‘Female’, which option should I go for?
I could go the whole way and decide that I am ‘Gender Neutral’. Gender Neutral is a term invented by people who prefer that language, policies and social institutions avoid distinguishing roles according to someone’s sex or gender.
Almost 40% of the world’s population speaks a gender native language. This of course proves problematic for those against any kind of gender based societal practices.

Gender Types
In general terms, there are only 4 genders that apply to living and non-living objects, which are masculine, feminine, neuter and common.
Other more recent listings will have you believe that there are more than 50 different genders, including Androgynous, Bigender, Cis Female, Genderqueer, Non-binary, Pangender, Transexual and many more.
Why the need to produce type after type of different styles and types of being. I am (after all) a product of my parents, born a female and still acting to all intent and purposes, as a female. However, does my sexual activity mean I should be relabelled as bisexual?
The big question is whether it is the individual themselves who wish to be labelled or indeed invent the label, or is it others unable to accept someone outside of the norm, who are making up these labels on (what seems to be) a daily basis?

The Language of Gender
If you play sport, you may refer to yourself as a ‘Sportsman’ or ‘Sportswoman’. That definition allows other people to identify the individual as female or male. It doesn’t necessarily provide any political or social reasoning behind the person participating. If we all start using the term ‘Sportsperson’, doubts and questions are immediately at the forefront of our mind.
If it’s a footballer, those opposed to females playing footie will be desperately trying to ascertain if their interest is piqued or not. I personally dislike watching female footballers and cannot watch female boxers but to be honest, with boxing, which includes males also. I hate fighting – period! For similar reasons I dislike Rugby and Wrestling. Some men feel the same way. It’s nothing to do whether it is a female or male dominated sport. It’s the activity and general feeling behind the sport in question.
There is no denying that when someone excels in an activity normally undertaken by the opposite sex, people generally sit up and take note. Whether it is due to their physique being matched to the pursuit, or achieved through years of training, they are noted and celebrated as going against the norm.

Gender Neutrality and the Human Race
The incidence of individuals being born which are neither masculine or feminine is incredibly small and yet society has introduced any number of descriptions relating to someone who does not fit the typical mould.
The big question is, who requested those labels? Was it the individuals themselves, or those seeking to extract them from a generalised description?
Surely a world where we are all classed as individuals is paramount to allowing everyone to exist in a world of equality. We are (in the main) either male or female because of the chromosome that the male parent contributes. We are born and then grow with a straightforward set of biological structures, depending upon whether we are born male or female. Our parents tend to concentrate on supplying the care required, depending upon our sex.

Acceptance
Some people do not feel comfortable with their allotted gender and struggle from an early age to fit into a mould which doesn’t suit them. Instead of seeing these people as having problems, why do we not see them as simply not conforming to a nominal standard? Why can we not allow them to flourish as an individual human being?
We do not need to label or put them inside a box which conforms to a set standard. Looking beyond what society demands is surely the way forward. Allowing everyone the freedom to be whomever they want to be, at any time they want to be, is surely a better way forward.

Removing the stigma of labelling and anything which does not conform means we progress towards a greater understanding of others. Acceptance is the key to opening up a much bigger and brighter world for all.

Love Carla Sez x

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Enhancing Your Live Cam Show with Top 5 Toys

Live cam shows are becoming increasingly popular, and with that comes a need for more advanced, interactive toys that can help make the experience even more enjoyable for viewers and performers alike. From the iconic Lush Vibrator from Lovense to the sophisticated Cowgirl sex machine, there is a whole world of toys that are perfect for live cam shows. Let’s take a look at some of the most popular toys that are making waves in the live cam industry.

1) The Lush Vibrators From Lovense
The Lush Vibrator from Lovense is one of the most iconic toys in the live cam world. Shaped like a U, it is designed to hook inside of a cam girl, stimulating both her clitoris and G-spot at the same time. The result is often an orgasm so intense that it can bring some models to their knees. Moreover, the toy is Bluetooth-controlled, meaning that viewers can take control of the toy’s power and send the cam girl into sexual ecstasy. It is a powerful tool that can’t be faked, and it is no wonder it is a popular choice for live cam shows.

2) The Cowgirl
The Cowgirl is a high-end sex toy designed to provide intense pleasure to the user. It is shaped like a bucking bronco and works by sending a pulse of vibration through the user’s private area until they reach an orgasm. It can be controlled via an app, meaning that viewers can take up the ante of the vibrations and send the cam model’s pleasure into the stratosphere. It is a powerful toy that can be incredibly enjoyable to watch and use.

3) Some Sex Machines are Described as the Bugatti of Robotic Sex.
Sex machines are becoming increasingly popular in the live cam world, and for a good reason. These formidable and industrial-looking machines can provide incredible pleasure to a user, and many of them are Bluetooth-controlled, meaning that viewers can take control of the machine’s speed, power, and position. Some of these sex machines are so powerful that they have been compared to having sex with the Terminator, and others have been described as the Bugatti of robotic sex. If you want to see a cam girl take one of these machines on, you will usually need to go into a private room with her.

4) Liberator Pillows
Liberator Pillows are perfect for helping cam girls stay comfortable while performing. They are also great for helping them to achieve awkward positions that their fans love. Many of these pillows are fully customizable and come with special compartments for toys and accessories, making them incredibly convenient. They are also incredibly easy to clean, making them a great choice for live cam shows.

5) A Magic Wand
The magic wand is another iconic toy in the live cam world. Originally designed as a massage aid, it is now a staple of the industry and rarely fails to bring about a hypnotic orgasm. It is usually quiet enough not to be distracting and is a great way for cam models to keep their viewers coming back for more.

The Technological Advances in the Live Cam Industry are Skyrocketing!

The live cam industry is rapidly advancing, and it is clear that there is a strong bond between some of the world’s most advanced sex toy companies and some of the most cutting-edge live sex cam sites. The possibilities for the future of live camming are endless, and it is certainly something to look forward to.

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Uncovering the Fetish Videos Lurking on TikTok

It’s no secret that TikTok is full of videos that are seemingly innocent but are actually disguised as fetish content. From bizarre life hacks to footage of someone being tied up, these videos reflect what some people find erotic. What’s more, these videos are being watched by children, which is the minimum age requirement for the app.

Foot fetishists, food fetishists, and those fascinated by messiness have all found a home on TikTok. While the platform does not allow videos that depict sexual fetishes, the definition of what constitutes a sexual fetish can be blurry.

Videos that appear to show a spray-on tattoo application, or a bride cutting a bridesmaid’s dress, can appear to be harmless but are actually porn for someone. To spot hidden fetish videos, we can think back to Supreme Court Justice Potter Stewart’s famous phrase: “I know it when I see it.”

Videos that feature cheesy soundtracks, leering camera angles, and an excessive buildup to an anticlimactic reveal are all signs of potential fetish content. Foot fetish videos are particularly popular, with videos showing people giving foot massages and stepping on gross items. Food fetishism is also prevalent, with videos featuring feeding fetishes and weird recipes.

Sploshing is another popular fetish involving someone being covered in a messy substance, such as food, mud, slime, or paint. Although it’s unclear what kind of effect this content may have on children, it’s worth noting that it’s out there and being watched. Letting people who will do anything for views potentially influence the psyches of our youth is a dangerous experiment that we’re conducting on humanity.

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Survey Reveals: 3 out of 4 Teens Have Been Exposed to Online Pornography by Age 13

A survey from Common Sense Media, a nonprofit child advocacy organization, has revealed that most teenagers have been exposed to online pornography by the age of 13, with 12 being the average age of first consumption.

Of over 1,300 teens between 13 and 17 surveyed, 73 percent reported having seen explicit content, 44 percent have done so intentionally, and 58 percent accidentally. As the proliferation of pornographic material on the internet has made it easier for youth and teens to consume, certain states have taken action to protect children from the dangers of online pornography. For example, Louisiana now requires those looking to view pornographic websites to present a government-issued ID.

The survey also found that LGBTQ+ youth are more likely than their peers to consume pornography, with many citing it as a way to explore their sexuality. Additionally, most respondents feel “OK” about the amount of pornography they consume, but half of them expressed feelings of guilt or shame afterward.

Overall, the survey highlights the need for greater education on the potential dangers of online pornography. Those viewing the content may be too young to understand, potentially leading to poor mental health, sexual violence, or other negative outcomes. In addition, older teens who consume pornography may have unrealistic or dangerous expectations of healthy sexual relationships.

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